Most everyone I’ve known growing up is probably going to think I’ve lost my mind or that I’ve been corrupted by the world or something like that. But it’s really the complete opposite. My mind has been opened. They might not like it or me anymore. But so be it. I guess I’m making waves. I can find new friends.
At this time, I do not claim to be a Christian. I am still not at all certain what I believe anymore about God and such but I do still have the experience of being raised in a strict fundamentalist baptist home and attending schools that espouse a rigid set of beliefs and standards that I do not live by. A set of beliefs that have had supposed Christians saying incredibly cruel and ignorant things. When you have no room in your head or your heart for anything other than a harsh set of rules and the idea that anyone who doesn’t believe exactly like you do is a reprobate, then I imagine it probably isn’t that hard to say cruel, ignorant, and unloving things.
But I choose not to be that. I choose not to repeat ignorant, cruel things just because it’s what I’ve been told was right my whole life. I am proud that this country has finally legalized same-sex marriage. There. I said it. I am proud. And I want to tell you that the reason I am proud is because it is just another step towards kindness. It is another step towards actually seeing and treating every single human being as just that… a human being. And that means that no matter how opposed you may be to how someone else lives their life, they are no less deserving of the rights that you yourself enjoy. One of which being the legal right to marry the person that you love.
I do have to mention that I find it very odd and somewhat disconcerting that so many Christians seem to be so incredibly preoccupied with and worried about other people’s sex lives. You may find it immoral or disgusting or whatever, and if that’s part of your belief system then fine, but it doesn’t actually affect you in any way. Giving someone else a right that they’ve never had before doesn’t mean that you are having any rights taken away. That’s like saying that when women got the right to vote, it somehow made it so that men were losing some kind of right. No. Women just got a chance to have a voice in the same way men did. Because they are also human and every bit as capable of making decisions (any decision) as men are.
You see I think it’s quite simple. You can disagree all you want with how someone else goes about living their life, but they are exactly the same as you. They live and breath and work and eat and sleep and love and live on this planet with you, and who they choose to spend their days doing that with doesn’t affect you. At all. Don’t kid yourself into thinking that you are better than them and that they are now going to take over the world and destroy all that is good. It’s just not true. This ruling by the Supreme Court does not mean the demise of our nation. It means equality.
At one point I liked politics. But it is so full of drama and childishness that it is almost unbearable. My politics have changed a lot in the past year or so but I absolutely despise the extremism of far left liberals and far right conservatives. I am a person who wants to make a difference. I want to do something. I want to change the world somehow. And I do know that doing something cannot begin with hate. It can begin with anger. Anger over injustice. Anger over pain. Anger over the mistreatment of human beings the world round. But it simply cannot begin with hate and disgust in your heart towards any certain group of people, no matter how wrong you think their way of living is.
There are so many things to disagree on. But disagreement doesn’t equal hate, cruelty, or insensitivity. Every person is deserving of some kind of respect because of the simple fact that they are another being with a soul. They really are just like you. Don’t ever forget that.